A Space for First Daughters & Recovering Self-Sacrificers
ADA.LOVE is a safe haven for those who often put the needs of others before their own. It's a space for healing, self-discovery, and empowerment, rooted in cultural understanding and a deep appreciation for the power of community.Learn more about our founder here.
My Name Means
"Daughter of the People"
Hi! I'm Ada, a queer non-binary and autistic design leader, community organizer, and healer; I'm also the first daughter of a Nigerian family.
Surviving a Life of Service
As the “Ada” of my family, I was taught to ignore my needs in service of everyone’s else’s. I know firsthand the pain of being overburdened, taken advantage of, and feeling unappreciated, especially by people you love.
After years of seeking support that resonated with my experiences, I found solace and strength in connecting with other Adas – initially, other first daughters of immigrant families, then others who also felt the unique challenges of reconciling their cultural upbringing and familial roles with their individual aspirations.
As I continued to grow my circle of those, like me, who struggled to give without sacrificing ourselves completely, in true "Ada" fashion, I saw an opportunity to wield the community of Adas I was building to support others in their own healing journey.
Reclaiming My Roots (& My Power)
I'm building this community for people who've longed for a space where they can be seen, heard, and poured back into--people like me.
Ada Love seeks to create a safe haven for Adas all over the world, a place where they can replenish their energy and spirit--and reciprocity is a core value.
Over the next few months, I'll be conducting research to explore the unique experiences of female-bodied women, non-binary and trans people who identify as eldest daughters, caregivers, or recovering self-sacrificers.
I have no agenda here other than to expand my community and healing circle and, in so doing, create space for others who might find connecting with others with shared experiences supportive of their own healing and personal growth.
If you're interested in sharing your story (anonymously of course), and shaping the future of Ada Love together, complete the survey below.
Discover the Power of Community as Healing
Be part of a community that values your experiences and supports your journey towards a more fulfilling and authentic life.
Why Join Ada Love?
Culturally Sensitive Healing: We recognize the unique challenges faced by individuals raised in cultures that prioritize family and community over individual needs. Our coaching, content, and community events offer tailored support for navigating these complexities.
Holistic Approach to Self-Discovery: We combine various modalities like somatic healing, sacred sexuality, and creative expression to facilitate deep, transformative healing and self-discovery.
Supportive and Inclusive Community: We foster a safe space where members can connect, share experiences, and build meaningful relationships with others who understand their journey.
Empowerment and Sovereignty: We help members reclaim their personal power, set healthy boundaries, and prioritize their own well-being without guilt or shame.
Platform for Authentic Expression: We encourage open and honest conversations about love, relationships, family, and community through various content formats, including blogs, media reviews, and personal stories.
If you're interested in sharing your story (anonymously of course), and shaping the future of Ada Love together, complete the survey below.
Share Your Story
Seeking Brave & Open-Hearted Conversations with Eldest Daughters All Over the World.
Over the next few months, we're scheduling 60-minute virtual interviews with individuals for who any of the following statements resonate:
playing a role as provider, caregiver, last-minute savior/fixer, in a way that doesn't give them a break.
constantly giving more than they receive to the people they love, whether emotionally, financially, or in other ways.
experiencing resentment, due to being unappreciated or even taken advantage of, even if that's not the intent.
viewed favorably as the person, partner, friend, colleague who considers and anticipates other people's needs (but rarely experiences this from others).
growing wary (or already exhausted) from being the one who 'carries' the relationships they have in their families, friendships, even communities.
feeling frustrated or in despair at being stuck in situations in which they’re 'doing all the emotional labor & self-work, while being surrounded by people who aren't.
Why Share Your Story?
Your experiences as an eldest daughter or recovering self-sacrificer are invaluable.
Many participants have shared that the simple act of speaking their truth has been incredibly liberating and validating. By sharing your unique story in a confidential interview, you'll not only contribute to a growing body of knowledge but also take a powerful step towards your own healing and empowerment.As a token of gratitude for your time and emotional labor, you'll receive a copy of the final research report, which we hope can serve as a powerful tool for affirmation, self-reflection, and even open conversations with loved ones.In any case, your story will directly shape the development of a supportive community and resources designed to uplift and empower women like you.
Register Your Interest
If you're interested in sharing your story (anonymously of course), submit the form below, and we'll be in touch depending on availability!
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